Be Proud of Who You Are: The Single Mom & the Wrong Sacrifices

Be Proud of Who You Are: The Single Mom & the Wrong Sacrifices

firstdayofschoolYou’re not going to believe what I got to do today.  It’s something you might take for granted, or you might think it’s not even a big deal.  It’s a very big deal.  Today, I got to walk my children to school on their first day.  That’s never happened.

I don’t want to complain. I am grateful.  See, I’ve always had a friend or nanny take my kids to school because I did a live radio show.  But, not this year.  Mama was there.

After I gave the last hug, spotted the last wave, and watched the door to the classroom close I walked home in a puddle of tears wondering why I had never taken the day off to do that before.

I was too obsessed with proving something to my employer.  That I was tough.  That I was strong.  That I wasn’t “that single mom” that always called in sick or took time off because of her kids.

Do you make sacrifices you shouldn’t? 

Single moms have to juggle more than they should.  Not only are we juggling children, the home, and finances ourselves, but also a career.  Something always have to give.  Unfortunately, for me it was things like the first day of school.

For some reason I thought that I had to “act like the man” and be at work on those special days. I remember once even watching a school performance on FaceTime from a friend’s phone while I was in the studio on air.  I was uncomfortable asking my employer for special considreations because I didn’t want to be judged or stereotyped as “oh that single mom again, asking for time off.”  I shouldn’t have been.

When more of us speak up and ask for time with our families, then it’s not so abnormal anymore.  Witnessing milestones with our families should never be a sacrifice we make. We also need to educate our bosses, co-workers, teachers, and principles around us on what we deal with, and how they can be more sensitive, and supportive.  We are not charity cases, but we do deserve respect.

Be proud of who you are.  The more of us that stand up for what we believe in and represent our values, then the more respected Single Moms will be.

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    Kelli Capps
    August 22nd, 2014 at 9:06 am

    This is so true! I’m a single mom to 3 boys and it is so hard to juggle everything. Some are so quick to judge and label. I want to help out more and be more active with my boys in the school and their extra curricular activities. However it takes everything I’ve got to get everyone where they need to be. Not to mention working two jobs just to be able to get by. I have been blessed with a good job though that allows me to take off when it comes to my kids. Family comes before your job is what he tells me every time! I pray for all the single parents out there that are doing it alone with no help!

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