The Single Mom & Strength

The Single Mom & Strength

Her office is shrinking a little each day
She’s the woman whose husband has run away
She’ll go to the gym after working today
Maybe if she was thinner
Then he would’ve stayed

JJ Heller // What Love Really Means

You can’t change his mind by getting a better body, but you can change yours.

CONFESSION: In the beginning of my single mom life I was that woman in that song. I tried to convince my ex husband to come back to our home. Even after an affair and abandonment. I tried to save my family.  I had to at least try. I wanted to forgive.  I felt it was my duty to try as a woman who loved Jesus, I know that forgiveness isn’t just for me, it’s for me to give away.  My children were 4, 20 months, and 8 weeks old at the time.  I had a part time job, no bank account of my own, and I was breastfeeding.  It was a shot in the dark. 

I began to focus on my body. I had the thought, if I just lost all my baby weight quickly, then he would come back. If I was attractive enough, he would realize that our marriage was worth saving. He would leave “her” and come back home.  

I got serious. I did what any self-respecting suburban housewife does, drops her kids off at preschool and goes to the gym. I’d wake up at 5am to do my morning radio show in Washington D.C., take Emily and Andy to preschool, stick Zoe in childcare, and work out with Charles, my trainer for 90 minutes.

Charles, a Marine and Christian man, was so much more than a trainer, he was a life coach. He helped me lose all the baby weight in record time, but it wasn’t the fix I wanted it to be.  It didn’t bring him back. It did something better, it brought me back. Our problems were deeper than my weight.

I finally realized that love should not be based on appearance, flat abs, and thin legs.  Love is something you give away unconditionally because you adore someone’s heart.

This aha moment hooked me on lifting weights as a release, a way of life, a way to boost my confidence and strength. 

Getting skinny is not going to fix it.  It’s not going to bring him back, and it’s not going to be the reason you find an awesome new boyfriend.  Getting STRONG is going to bring you the confidence you need to find YOU again.

That’s why I love lifting weights.  I love squats, I love bicep curls, I love every lunge because I know every step is making me a strong woman, a stronger mother, and the example I want my children to live up to.  It makes me a stronger leader for my God.

BTW: Lifting weights will NOT make you bulky.  It will however get you a nicer body, toned abs, and a whole lot of strength, confidence, and a positive outlook.

Npostow, I workout for me.  I train for me. I’m diving deep into the world of body building! It’s teaching me commitment, accountability, and the benefit of hard work. Scratch that, I’m doing for us, my Single Mom Strong tribe of readers and families.

I want to show you how you can change your body, change your life, reinvent when everything seems to be out of shape or out of whack. I want to show you how to be in the best shape of your life and feel confident no matter who left you, why he left you, or why he never was in the first place.

You need to be strong for you, for your children, and for your legacy.

Will you train with me?  If you want to get in the best shape of your life, control your food cravings, and feel confident in yourself again call my friends at Iron Addiction!  They will make a CUSTOM workout and nutrition plan to meet your needs and your schedule and it’s all ONLINE!  So easy!

ironaddictionlogoIron Addiction is offering followers of a remote training program you can opt into.  Just go online to .  My friends, Mike and Trish, are generously giving just my tribe of Single Moms HALF OFF their initiation fee for the first 10 signups.   Fantastic deal! There are only a few spots left! I have been using this program for months and am loving it!  It’s made the gym and nutrition much easier with my busy single mom life to fit in a workout and eat well.  If I can do it with 3 kids solo, you can do it too!

Very quickly they send you a workout with pictures and instructions for your gym. Trust me if I can figure this out, you can too!  Don’t be afraid of the weight room!  Hey you might meet some nice healthy strong men there!  Put your makeup on girl!  Next, they send you a personalized nutrition plan!  You know exactly how much of what you can eat for each meal.

Iron Addiction provides the tools you need to succeed, you just have to implement them.  Every month you will receive new workouts to be performed at your local gym or with your home equipment.  They will work around any physical limitations you have and design a plan for your specific goals.  Your nutrition plan will change as needed to keep your body progressing and avoid that dreaded “plateau”

If you are a beginner at this, no problem. If you are a competitive athlete, no problem. This is what you need to get to the next level!

I am focused and learning the secrets of meal prep and exercising and will share on a regular basis here on this blog.  Come back and learn how I use my crock pot for shortcuts, how I meal prep a week ahead to set myself up for success on busy kid’s sports Saturdays.  You got this. We got this.

Let’s build a tribe of single moms that are spiritually and physically STRONG!

Don’t forget the first 10 in get half of of their initiation fee!  Just go online to

“The Lord is my light and my salvation; who shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?” –Psalm 27:1

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